The Belief That Drives Everything I Do
For anyone who’s ever thought, “Why can’t I just get it right?”
When I thought something was wrong with me
For a long time, I believed something was wrong with me.
That I just couldn’t get this thing called life right because of it.
I was certain I had some fundamental flaw that kept what I wanted just out of reach.
I thought if I could just find the right technique, the right mindset, or the right affirmation then maybe I’d finally feel whole.
The truth I finally saw
But! What I’ve learned through years of working with clients (and myself) is this:
There’s nothing wrong with me. There never was.
I was more like a car with the emergency brake stuck on: pushing the gas, trying harder, yet never getting anywhere.
It looked like self-sabotage. It wasn’t.
It was my unconscious mind keeping me safely tucked within the familiar.
What felt like procrastination was my nervous system guarding against overwhelm, something it (or I) was highly skilled at producing.
And what I called “being stuck” was nothing more than an old emotional program running quietly in the background.
The patterns that weren’t mine
The real kicker though? None of it was mine, not really.
They were patterns I learned from my conflicted parents, who had their own struggles, and were doing the best they could to survive.
My job wasn’t to fight those parts, to hit the gas harder to try and overcome the hold of the emergency brake.
My job was to release the patterns - to release the brakes completely.
When you release the emotional charge held in memories, your system doesn’t have to keep defending you from figments and fantasies.
You begin to see that your reactions, your patterns, even your pain were never proof of something being wrong with you.
They were proof of survival.
Remembering who you were before the world told you otherwise
That realization changed everything for me.
It’s the foundation of my work now.
I help people remember who they were before the world told them they had to earn their worth.
Before they learned to equate love with performance, or safety with control.
Before they forgot that peace isn’t something to chase or strive for - it’s something to return to.
What healing really means
Healing isn’t about adding more to yourself.
It’s not about better habits (though you may find your habits naturally evolve as your identity does - mine did).
It’s not about striving or trying harder, either.
Healing is about clearing what never belonged to you in the first place. The trance of not-enoughness and the old programming of fear and self-doubt.
When you stop trying to fix yourself and start listening with interest and curiosity, something beautiful happens:
You discover the real you, the one that was there all along.
And that, to me, is freedom.
So, the belief that really drives everything I do is this:
There was never anything wrong with me.
I was simply acting from unconscious, outdated internal references
and those can be updated.
If this resonates, you might love my free Repatterning Audio Journey.
It guides you to release old emotional programs, the same kind of patterns that kept my emergency brake stuck for years, so you can finally move forward with ease.