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Suzy Rowlands's avatar

What a beautiful letter Nicola. Such a grand tribute to your dear friend Pukkah.💫✨🥹

So, so precious.

And yes! Oh how much energy, time and health is lost to unhelpful ruminations…what a beautiful thing it is that we get to be on the awareness journey, ever shifting, even if on some days just shuffling, towards more empowering thougts.

Ahhh I’m raising my cup of cocoa to the beauty of Pukkah and aaall the joy he brought.🥹🪄

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Nicola Vitkovich's avatar

Suzy, thank you. Such a beautiful and lovely comment. Makes me wish I had a cup of cocoa to raise right back at you. My lime seltzer water will have to do.

I agree, with awareness comes the possibility of shifting to more empowering thoughts. Those little changes help so much.

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Suzy Rowlands's avatar

Just bless you Nicola…sooo true, little shifts create big changes me thinks…🙂♥️🪄✨

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Jonathan Matei's avatar

Losing someone, whether it’s a family member or even a pet, can really shake you. It’s crazy how certain memories stick, like that last moment or a small habit they had.

But the tough part is moving past the questions that don’t have answers. I really like how you pointed that out because it’s something a lot of people struggle with.

Grief has a way of making you focus on the hardest parts, but shifting to the good memories makes all the difference. That balance isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

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Nicola Vitkovich's avatar

HI Jonathan, Thank you for an insightful addition to the conversation. Once we have an awareness of how we’re turning our grief into suffering, when we see it in process, we become free to choose a better feeling thought. The good memories are there just waiting to soothe us.

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Linda Bonney's avatar

I had to backspace quickly when I wrote 'I'm sorry for your loss'. It's such a cliche response and one that I don't think helps.

What I do know is that I love this piece, because you can feel all sorts of emotions seeping through each word. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to seeing more articles heading my way!

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Nicola Vitkovich's avatar

Thank you, Linda. I default to “I’m sorry for your loss” often, because words fail me and I so want to offer SOMETHING, even if inadequate. Thank you for your precious and thoughtful comment. 💗

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Stephanie's avatar

Beautifully written Nicola. No wonder why it’s said memories are precious- that’s where we need to focus.

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Nicola Vitkovich's avatar

Thank you, Stephanie. The quality of our experiences depend on which ones we choose to focus on.

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Rajesh  Mathur's avatar

It's a fantastically written article, @Nicola. Loved reading it.

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Nicola Vitkovich's avatar

Thank you, Rajesh.

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